Jessica Stillman repors for Inc.com:
Are optimists born or made?
We tend to think of those who see the sunnier side of life as having been blessed with a positive disposition. And it’s true that some significant portion of our happiness is probably determined by our pre-set tendency towards melancholy or cheer. But according to science, positivity is also very much a skill you can learn.
Just like you can exercise daily to build your body’s capacity for lifting heavy objects, it turns out you can also adopt simple daily practices that will rewire your psychology to tend more towards a positive outlook.
From my own experience I can support the „Avoid complainers“ suggestions:
Complaining has memorably been described as the equivalent of emotional farting in an elevator. Would you stick around for dozens of floors with the guy who clearly ate too many beans for lunch? No, I’m guessing you would not. For similar reasons you should start making it a habit to quickly exit the situation when others around you start to bitch and moan.
Surely complaining has a lot of negative impacts like lower moods, negative emotions, decreased life satisfaction and optimism.